In this extract from her book, See What You Made Me Do, Jess Hill traces the psychology of abusers and how they use the same techniques of oppression
Domestic abuse may be as old as intimacy, but we only really started to understand it after the first women’s refuges opened in the 1970s. When women in their thousands fled to these makeshift shelters, they weren’t just complaining about black eyes and raging tempers. They told stories of unfathomable cruelty and violence, and what sounded like orchestrated campaigns of control. It became clear that, although each woman’s story was individual, the overarching narratives were uncannily alike. As one shelter worker said at the time, “It got so I could finish a woman’s story halfway through it. There was this absolutely eerie feeling that these guys were sitting together and deciding what to say and do.”
Today, we know that that the techniques common to domestic abuse match those used by practically anyone who trades in captivity: kidnappers, hostage-takers, pimps, cult leaders. What this reveals is that there is nothing uniquely weak, helpless or masochistic about victims of domestic abuse. Faced with the universal methods of coercive control, their responses are no different from those of trained soldiers.
It’s the fact that a woman penning a powerful and shocking essay detailing how she alleges the man who is now the President of the United States raped her 25 years ago, almost seems normal that is most disturbing.
It is so ‘normal’ that it doesn’t make front page news.
One of the ‘TERFs’ being blamed for Berdorf’s exit from Childline is Times columnist Janice Turner who caused a storm by asking if it is appropriate for a child charity to link up with a ‘porn model’ (Bergdorf has posed for Playboy).
Bergdorf wasn’t dumped on the basis of the trans identity, so the ‘transphobia’ claims are a lie.
No, Bergdorf was let go because in the view of the NSPCC there had been a breach of its safeguarding rules. Bergdorf has on numerous occasions posed messages online inviting troubled kids to get in touch for advice.
Not content with weaving a fact-free tale about ‘transphobia’, the pro-Bergdorf camp then accused Bergdorf’s critics of homophobia after they started to criticise the gay man at the NSPCC who was instrumental in hiring Bergdorf. Again, this was lies. The so-called TERFs weren’t criticising this man’s fitness to work at the NSPCC because he is gay, but because he allegedly once filmed himself wanking at work and posted the video on the internet.
People should worry less about Bergdorf losing a public platform and focus instead on the foisting of the bizarre and destructive ideology of transgenderism on to the next generation.
We keep asking, ‘Why doesn’t she just leave?’ But for Jess Hill, who spent four years investigating domestic violence, the more confounding question is, ‘Why does he stay?’
The Canadian government’s foreign policy includes efforts to end child marriage abroad but one researcher says it’s “insincere” because thousands of legal child marriages have occurred here in Canada over the past two decades.
People need to re-think the idea that the practice only takes place in foreign countries, McGill University assistant professor Alissa Koski told CTVNews.ca during a phone interview.
According to her research — which is currently pending final review – 3,382 marriage licenses involving minors between the ages of 16 and 18 were issued between 2000 and 2018. This was based on data from provinces’ vital statistics offices, which issue marriage certificates.
As gay people, we cannot insist on the right to carry out practices that harm the rights of others. Rather than being an LGBT rights issue, surrogacy is a women’s rights issue and a children’s rights issue; and like the sale of human organs, it is not an activity that should be promoted or indeed permitted.
“I was absolutely shocked as to how someone with not only a domestic violence order against them, but also breaches as well, was able to be supervising other abusers,” Ms Penn said.
“I think there’s a conflict of interest in that he could be supervising other cases with a very lenient eye, as he has stipulated many times that women make false accusations simply to get their children.
“I rang the Australian Children’s Contact Services Association and reported him and they apologised and said unfortunately there is no regulation.”
Equalities secretary says government failed to address concerns over rights of others in single-sex spaces