It’s a weird thing, growing up being told that you were an answered prayer. That you were chosen. That unlike so many other babies out there, you were wanted, immeasurably.
It’s weird to hear all those things while another voice — one that is not allowed to speak, so she whispers from the darkest corners of your mind — reminds you that you were inherently unwanted. You were abandoned. The people who should have held you closest and wanted you the most gave you away to strangers.
That’s what adoptive parents are to a newborn baby who has been prematurely separated from her mother. They are aliens.
Being an adoptee is a life sentence and as such, loneliness is a life sentence.
Another story from Mamamia illustrates the impact on a mother of having a child removed.