“Where women are the perpetrators, the violence is different: studies have repeatedly shown that it’s not as prolonged, and that men are far less likely to be living in fear. They’re also far less likely to be murdered: men kill women in four out of five intimate partner homicides. In the vast majority of cases where women kill their partners, the death follows a history of being subjected to domestic violence.”
“Despite fashionable debates about whether we’re living in post-feminist times, the uncomfortable truth is that our not-so-distant history still feeds into our beliefs. A late-19th-century married woman was literally a man’s property, and it was his duty to protect her. The common law doctrine of coverture vanquished a woman’s legal rights on her wedding day, and assigned them to her husband. From that day on, she and her husband were considered to be the same person – and that person was the husband. Coverture was abolished in 1882, but its legacy endured; until the 1990s, a marriage certificate conveyed permanent sexual consent, and Australian men were permitted by law to rape their wives.
Domestic violence is the modern legacy of this history.”
I”. . .he is, in some important respects, right. Men are losing power in a world where women have gained formal equality. Ahmed is certainly not the first to suggest that some are “evening the score”, in crude terms, in their private lives. An analogous argument has been made by “radical feminists” regarding the exponential rise of the global sex industry.
Where Ahmed falls drastically short is in naming that the power being lost was not a legitimate power in the first place – any more than whites having power over blacks or gay couples not being “allowed” to marry was legitimate. This unearned privilege was and is part of a system of social, political and economic control that feminism as a movement for women’s equality has sought to name, critique and dismantle.”