A senior Family Court judge in London issued a gag order this week on a case involving a fellow judge and his partner who abused their adopted children.
Judge Lucy Morgan Theis’ order states that neither parent can be named, which is not uncommon. It’s supposedly to protect the identities of child victims. In practice, it is usually more to protect the abuser father’s identity and reputation than the children.
But strangely, her order also states that the parents cannot be “gendered”. In reality lingo this means their biological sex cannot be identified by journalists, meaning they cannot use gender-identifying “pronouns”. The parents asked this be done.
Incredibly, Judge Theis literally ordered journalists to use the gender-neutral pronouns “they/their/them” for each parent instead of “he/him/his” or she/her/hers”, which would reveal whether they were male or female. This is unprecedented.
And absurd.
The judge is almost surely a male since facts about the case point to it and one brave journalist included this stock photo in her coverage of the debacle. So we will break rank and use male pronouns for him. We will just call his partner the teacher.
The judge practices in Family Court. He specializes in children’s cases, which makes it all the worse. And his partner is a primary school teacher, which makes this case beyond horrible. But neither is surprising. Child abusers often have professions involving authority over children.
About 20 years ago, they began adopting children from foster care. They adopted five kids in all, two of whom are now adults. It is unknown what the children’s ages were when they were adopted.
They were all boys.
In January of last year, the two youngest boys, then 14 and 9 years old, ran away to where their older sibling was being fostered. This incited a new CPS case in which the boys bravely reported a litany of physical, sexual, and emotional abuse and neglect by their adoptive parents.
The older sibling had also disclosed abuse, which is why he was placed in care years ago. Despite his brave escape and disclosures, nothing was done to protect his little brothers.
If the teacher is a woman, a court would never go to such lengths to cover up for her. There would be no problem saying the wife/teacher was the primary abuser and the husband/judge just looked on. Courts love to place blame on mothers.
So you probably guessed the hypothesis is that both the judge and teacher are men. They are a gay “couple” who never married, although gay marriage is legal in England.
If the Court allowed the naming or “gendering” of the teacher and judge, the public would know they are a gay couple adopting and abusing boys. This may give some pause to allowing gay men to adopt.
This is not about being gay; it is about being men. The vast majority of serious assaults and violence are perpetrated by men. The vast majority of sexual abuse is committed by men. So, it stands to reason that if you have two men running a household, it may not be as safe as if there is a mother there to keep an eye on things and protect the children.
This judge, who abused his own children, was presiding over Family Court cases. Who knows how many children he caused to be abused with bad custody rulings?
Source: (5) Family Court Judge Who Abused Own Kids Can’t Be Named or “Gendered”