When asked, “How do you know a guy likes you?,” an 8th grade girl replied: “He still wants to talk to you after you [give him oral sex].”
A male high school student said to a girl: “If you [give me oral sex] I’ll give you a kiss.”
Sexual bullying and harassment are part of daily life for many girls growing up as a part of this digital generation. Young girls are speaking out more and more about how these practices have links with pornography—because it’s directly affecting them.
Pornography is molding and conditioning the sexual behaviors and attitudes of boys, and girls are being left without the resources to deal with these porn-saturated boys.
If there are still any questions about whether porn has an impact on young people’s sexual attitudes and behaviors, perhaps it’s time to listen to young people themselves. Girls and young women describe boys pressuring them to provide acts inspired by the porn they consume routinely. Girls tell of being expected to put up with things they don’t enjoy.
Some see sex only in terms of performance, where what counts most is the boy enjoying it. I asked a 15-year-old about her first sexual experience. She replied: “I think my body looked OK. He seemed to enjoy it.”
Many girls seem cut off from their own sense of pleasure or intimacy. The main marker of a “good” sexual encounter is only if he enjoyed it.
7th grade girls are asking questions about bondage and S&M. Many of them have seen 50 Shades of Grey, and wonder if a boy wants to hit me, tie me up and stalk me, does that mean he loves me? Girls are tolerating demeaning and disrespectful behaviors, and thereby internalizing pornography’s messages about their submissive role.
Some girls suffer physical injury from porn-inspired sexual acts, including anal sex.
The Australian Psychological Society estimates that adolescent boys are responsible for around 20% of rapes of adult women and between 30% and 50% of all reported sexual assaults of children.
A 2012 review of research on “The Impact of Internet Pornography on Adolescents” found that adolescent consumption of internet porn was linked to attitudinal changes, including acceptance of male dominance and female submission as the primary sexual paradigm, with women viewed as “sexual playthings eager to fulfill male sexual desires.”
Young people are not learning about intimacy, friendship and love, but about cruelty and humiliation.
Source: Sex Before Kissing: How 15-Year-Old Girls Are Dealing With Porn-Obsessed Boys
There is no barrier to accessing pornography on the internet. Gone are the days of chancing upon a tattered copy of Playboy on a building site, now it is possible for a child to access any content no matter how perverse or misogynistic via the net. I note that YouTube have a ‘you must give evidence of your age’ for certain clips showing violence but anyone can go to any of the endless porn sites and access anything. So we are abusing our children by allowing this system to operate let alone how we abuse them by allowing the trans lobby to dictate to them how normal sexual fetishism is. We are failing our children. And the silence from Child Protection has been deafening…