Man rejected by woman sues her for S$3m over trauma from finding out he is only a friend

SINGAPORE: A man who was rejected romantically by a woman has launched two lawsuits against her for failing to improve their relationship and for the emotional trauma he suffered and other impacts on his life.

Mr K Kawshigan filed one suit against Ms Nora Tan Shu Mei in the Magistrate’s Court for S$22,000 in damages, for purportedly breaching an agreement to improve their relationship.

The second was filed in the High Court for S$3 million, for the emotional trauma he allegedly suffered after finding out that she saw him only as a friend.

According to court documents later obtained by CNA, he also claimed that her actions had caused damage to his “stellar reputation”, followed by “trauma, depression and impacts to his life” over a 24-month period.

Source: Man rejected by woman sues her for S$3m over trauma from finding out he is only a friend

Women must defend their single-sex spaces | The Spectator Australia

When the ADF employee, (I’ll call her Jane) contacted SeMPRO to seek assistance, she told them that a male was utilising the female toilet facility she had been provided and he was making her feel unsafe in her work environment. SeMPRO allegedly replied with a warning to Jane, that if the male person identifies as a ‘transgender woman’ it would be ‘discrimination’ to deny them access to the female facility. The social worker from SeMPRO, with she\her pronouns, apparently went on to suggest that Jane ‘utilise a different bathroom’.

‘Female’ is now an identity category throughout the Australian government. All males who identify into the category of female, which they can do with a simple declaration, are given the assumption that they are free of male pattern violence.

According to the Australian Bureau of statistics, 97 per cent of all sex offenders are male.

The ADF is a ‘principal partner’ of ACON’s Pride Inclusion Program, gaining a ranking of ‘bronze’ in their latest Australian Workplace Equality Index (AWEI) publication, having fallen from the dizzy heights of ‘silver’ in previous years.

The higher your employer is in the AWEI ranking, the less likely they will be to have any accommodations at all for the special needs of female bodies, and certainly not with the security, privacy, and dignity of a facility that is separate from males. The AWEI has a 43 question ‘scoring guide’ for employers to gain ranking toward equity greatness. Item 15 in the ‘advanced’ section of the guide is the question: ‘We have (or are working towards) having “gender neutral” or “all gender” bathrooms.’

When told to use another facility, Jane asked the social worker from SeMPRO if she should use the male facility or go home to use her own bathroom, to which she was given no response. Jane further inquired as to how serving female soldiers and officers will fare in the field when they are expected to shower and undress in a common facility. Will women be expected to shower naked in front of males? She was allegedly not given a response, although it is a fair question given the history of the ADF in failing to safeguard women from sexual assault and harassment.

The Australian Institute of Health and Welfare estimates that 1 in 6 women have been sexually assaulted as adults and more than twice that as children. So, if any given female facility is being used by more than five or so people we can safely assume it is being accessed by a survivor of male pattern violence and specifically sexual assault.

Not many women want to talk to their boss about sexual trauma, incontinence, or heavy bleeding. The dignity of attending to our issues in a single sex environment is a luxury we are being forced to abandon along with our knowledge that humans don’t change sex.

 

Source: Women must defend their single-sex spaces | The Spectator Australia

Sex Before Kissing: How 15-Year-Old Girls Are Dealing With Porn-Obsessed Boys

When asked, “How do you know a guy likes you?,” an 8th grade girl replied: “He still wants to talk to you after you [give him oral sex].”

A male high school student said to a girl: “If you [give me oral sex] I’ll give you a kiss.”

Sexual bullying and harassment are part of daily life for many girls growing up as a part of this digital generation. Young girls are speaking out more and more about how these practices have links with pornography—because it’s directly affecting them.

Pornography is molding and conditioning the sexual behaviors and attitudes of boys, and girls are being left without the resources to deal with these porn-saturated boys.

If there are still any questions about whether porn has an impact on young people’s sexual attitudes and behaviors, perhaps it’s time to listen to young people themselves. Girls and young women describe boys pressuring them to provide acts inspired by the porn they consume routinely. Girls tell of being expected to put up with things they don’t enjoy.

Some see sex only in terms of performance, where what counts most is the boy enjoying it. I asked a 15-year-old about her first sexual experience. She replied: “I think my body looked OK. He seemed to enjoy it.”

Many girls seem cut off from their own sense of pleasure or intimacy. The main marker of a “good” sexual encounter is only if he enjoyed it.

7th grade girls are asking questions about bondage and S&M. Many of them have seen 50 Shades of Grey, and wonder if a boy wants to hit me, tie me up and stalk me, does that mean he loves me? Girls are tolerating demeaning and disrespectful behaviors, and thereby internalizing pornography’s messages about their submissive role.

Some girls suffer physical injury from porn-inspired sexual acts, including anal sex.

The Australian Psychological Society estimates that adolescent boys are responsible for around 20% of rapes of adult women and between 30% and 50% of all reported sexual assaults of children.

A 2012 review of research on “The Impact of Internet Pornography on Adolescents” found that adolescent consumption of internet porn was linked to attitudinal changes, including acceptance of male dominance and female submission as the primary sexual paradigm, with women viewed as “sexual playthings eager to fulfill male sexual desires.”

Young people are not learning about intimacy, friendship and love, but about cruelty and humiliation.

Source: Sex Before Kissing: How 15-Year-Old Girls Are Dealing With Porn-Obsessed Boys

Victoria Police allegedly use LEAP database to pursue, stalk, harass women prompting calls for inquiry – ABC News

  • The ABC has spoken exclusively to three women about alleged misconduct by three separate Victorian Police officers
  • The women claim the officers used a police database to access personal information to stalk and harass them
  • In the past five years, there have been complaints against 178 police for misusing LEAP.

Of the complaints, 32 files remain active, 65 officers were disciplined, and no action was taken in relation to 79 officers while another eight were charged with misusing LEAP in that time.

The Law Enforcement Assistance Program (LEAP) is an online database that catalogues a person’s interactions with Victoria Police, including alleged crimes, family violence incidents, and missing persons reports.

Source: Victoria Police allegedly use LEAP database to pursue, stalk, harass women prompting calls for inquiry – ABC News

2 women sexually harassed by late Supreme Court judge win settlement – Lawyers Weekly

Two women, who were sexually harassed by a former Supreme Court judge, have won settlements after first coming forward in 2020.

Maurice Blackburn has achieved a legal settlement for two women who were sexually harassed by late Supreme Court judge Peter Vickery when they were associates.

Source: 2 women sexually harassed by late Supreme Court judge win settlement – Lawyers Weekly

Beauty pageants gave Maddy May confidence, but then an ugly world revealed itself – ABC News

At a 2018 Sydney pageant . . ., travelling entrants were put up at the pageant sponsor’s private accommodation. There were cameras hidden in rooms without women’s consent . . .

Darwin-based photographer Jed Hansen, who was photographing the event and also staying at the accommodation, found the cameras.

He says he noticed “odd” wiring in his own and then other rooms. He traced the wires to locate six “ultra-wide angle” domed cameras hidden “strategically in furniture pieces”, and in locations including a chandelier and a light fixture.

At another 2019 competition in China, May “found out that all the girls that had actually won had gone into private rooms with the sponsors and taken their clothes off and had parties with them”.

She says some of the women shared with her that “things had happened, and that’s why they had won”.

“You’re working crazy hours in ridiculous conditions … you need to present and look like a doll from 5am till 2am and keep that perfect look the entire time,” she says.

“Every single tiny little thing that you do is being judged, watched, pulled apart and criticised.”

May says being referred to on stage by number, not name,  “felt dehumanising”. She says she felt that pageant owners “basically own you”.

Source: Beauty pageants gave Maddy May confidence, but then an ugly world revealed itself – ABC News

Magistrate removed from office for sexual harassment – Lawyers Weekly

The Governor of South Australia has removed a magistrate from office, following the tabling of a report in the state’s Parliament detailing proven allegations of misconduct, including sexual harassment.

Among the allegations substantiated in the report was a comment, to a magistrate’s associate who is gay, that, “You have a vagina, and it was designed for a penis.”

Elsewhere, evidence accepted by the panel included remarks made to the associate of a District Court judge by the magistrate, to the effect of the following: “She’s a very attractive girl, isn’t she”, and “If I was one to two years younger, I would definitely have a crack.”

South Australia’s Chief Justice, the Honourable Chris Kourakis, added that bullying, harassment, discrimination or victimisation of any kind “cannot be tolerated”.

 

Source: Magistrate removed from office for sexual harassment – Lawyers Weekly

Sexual harassment deemed outside a legal regulator’s scope – Lawyers Weekly

Only a small proportion of organisations take disciplinary action against sexual harassment and bullying in the workplace because they are still thought to be outside the remit of a legal regulator, according to a regulatory body for the legal profession.

It found that of the respondents, 70 per cent have the authority to address sexual harassment — but only 58 per cent had taken disciplinary action in relation to sexual harassment, while 47 per cent had taken disciplinary action for bullying.

Ms McLeay said the lawyers surveyed by the VLSB+C in 2019 said they didn’t report being sexually harassed due to fear of not being believed, a desire to avoid confrontation with the harasser, concerns that a complaint could derail their career, and an expectation that the complaints process would be embarrassing or complicated.

The survey also revealed that 90 per cent of perpetrators are male, 66 per cent are aged over 40, and 72 per cent are in a more senior role than the person they harass.

“From this, it’s clear another major barrier is the power imbalance that often exists in cases of sexual harassment,” Ms McLeay said.

In 2021, the VLSB+C launched an online tool for lawyers to anonymously report instances of sexual harassment.

The tool — which can be accessed through the VLSB+C website — allows victims and witnesses of sexual harassment in the Victorian legal profession to share the details of the misconduct and have their reports reviewed by a specially trained sexual harassment complaints team.

Source: Sexual harassment deemed outside a legal regulator’s scope – Lawyers Weekly

Litigants shouldn’t bear court costs, say BigLaw firms – Lawyers Weekly

The proposed introduction of a positive duty to prevent sexual harassment is “only one piece of the puzzle” — ensuring that claimants can viably enforce their rights, through Australia’s courts, is fundamental, say national plaintiff firms.

As reported yesterday by Lawyers Weekly, over 100 lawyers and legal organisations have signed a letter to the Attorney-General and Minister for Women, expressing “deep concern” over the proposal (in the Anti-Discrimination and Human Rights Legislation Amendment (Respect at Work) Bill 2022) for litigants to bear their own costs in sexual harassment cases, which could also make it “uneconomical” for law firms to offer no-win-no-fee arrangements.

As Women’s Legal Service NSW principal solicitor Pip Davis noted, the bill “misses an important opportunity to address the power imbalance experienced by working women bringing actions against their employers”.

The risk, Ms Davis pointed out, is that if a claimant loses, “they have to pay hundreds of thousands of dollars in legal costs”.

Shine Lawyers head of employment law Samantha Mangwana — another letter signatory – added that the proposed reform seeks to remove the ordinary rule that the loser pays the winner’s costs.

Legislators must bear in mind, Ms Mangwana continued, that those costs may then exceed compensation.

Without certainty on costs, and needing to weigh that up against compensation, plaintiff lawyers will not be able to offer no-win-no-fee agreements even in cases they believe will win, Ms Mangwana hypothesised.

To remove the deterrent of an adverse costs risk, and ensure that victim-survivors still recover meaningful compensation after their legal costs, a simple alternative would be to substitute the costs rule from federal whistleblower protections, since these too are cases brought in the public interests.

“Costs can then only be awarded against a plaintiff if the case was brought vexatiously or without reasonable cause, or conducted unreasonably.”

Source: Litigants shouldn’t bear court costs, say BigLaw firms – Lawyers Weekly

Qantas doubles down on sexual harassment defence | The Oz

Two senior female Qantas pilots this week publicly raised allegations of sexism and harassment – and one has filed a claim against the airline – while working in the cockpit raising the alarm on gender inequality amongst airline staff.

A review of Qantas cabin crew and pilots was conducted by former Sex Discrimination Commissioner Elizabeth Broderick in 2019, finding more than one quarter of female pilots reported experiences of sexual harassment over the previous 12 months.

Davida Forshaw, who is currently employed by Qantas but is on medical leave, last week filed a sexual harassment suit in the federal court against the airline. In the filing, revealed by The Oz, Forshaw claimed she received a poor performance report after she rejected sexual advances from an airline captain, was instructed to get coffee for her male counterparts while participating in an engineering briefing, and was told she “would do a lot better” if she dyed her hair blonde and wore a push up bra.

The Flight Attendants’ Association of Australia has called for Australia’s major airlines to implement gender quotas for pilots, as “more women up the front would have a positive benefit for cabin crew” and help squash the “trolley dolly” stereotype amongst cabin crew.

Across Qantas Group, 7 per cent of pilots are females. and at QantasLink, the airline’s regional arm, 13.2 per cent of pilots are women.

Source: Qantas doubles down on sexual harassment defence | The Oz